Father’s Matter

On January 19th, my family and I observed the one-year anniversary of the passing of my dad. It was an opportunity to reflect on the role he had in my life and the realization that dad really does matter. He taught me many things about life but the most important thing he passed on to me was the importance of having and growing my relationship with my Heavenly Father. 

The impact of the father on the spiritual lives of his family is critically important. Studies have shown that when men are active in the spiritual development of their children, they are much more likely to remain involved in a life of faith. It doesn’t take much of a look around to realize that we men have failed in our duties. Our children and their children are leaving churches of all types in droves. The level of spiritual development and engagement among our young adults and teens does not paint a pretty picture for the future. 

Perhaps it is time to step back and look at a role model we can all aspire to imitate. St. Joseph is the role model that all fathers should follow. His humble obedience to the will of the Heavenly Father is a shining example of what we as fathers and grandfathers are called to emulate. He was thrust into a role that would be hard to comprehend. Betrothed to a young woman probably in her mid-teens, St. Joseph has to deal with her pregnancy and the explanation that followed. Not wanting to disgrace or endanger her, he seeks to quietly divorce her. An angel of the Lord appears to let him know what he needs to do. He trusts that this is a duty that has been given to him, to raise this Son of God. 

We don’t know much about the life of St. Joseph, but we can see the results in his work. Jesus is raised by a man who teaches him a craft and lives the life faith he was called to live. St. Joseph was his guide, his mentor not only in his learning a skill but in teaching him the faith of God’s chosen people. He trusted the will of God and lived out as an example to Jesus. 

What St. Joseph shows and teaches us is the act of having a simple trust in God. He showed the strength of his character was in that trust. This is something all of us could work on. We don’t always know where we’re going but we know if we seek the will of the Father, we’ll get where we’re supposed to be. I suspect St. Joseph relied on that principle. Trust is a hard thing to develop especially when we don’t always see the results. I believe that this trust was further developed in St. Joseph’s life of prayer. It’s hard to develop trust without taking time to get to know someone. Prayer is that way in which we come to know God so we can develop that trust like St. Joseph.

In this year of St. Joseph, take some time in prayer to ask him to help guide you as he did Jesus. That is especially true for those fathers and grandfathers out there. Become that spiritual leader you are called to be. Show your children and grandchildren the importance of coming to know the Heavenly Father. Tell them the story of St. Joseph and his great trust in God. It’ll be a good lesson for them. 

Deacon Dave Profitt
Director, St. Anne Retreat Center
Melbourne, KY. 41058
www.stanneretreatcenter.org