In the Litany of St. Joseph, as well as in the Divine Praises that are said at the end of Eucharistic Benediction, we refer to St. Joseph as the “most chaste spouse” of the Virgin Mary. What does this title mean? Many today think about celibacy when they hear the word “chastity.” Because of this, most understand chastity to be reserved for priests, religious sisters, or other really holy people. But this misses the point because every Christian is called to live a chaste life. So, what does it mean to be chaste?
Firstly, chastity is a virtue, which means it is a habit of doing the good. Chastity specifically refers to the proper integration of one’s sexual energies of life and love. Many think of chastity in a merely negative way—namely many understand chastity as exclusively limiting what we can or cannot do (no to fornication, no to pornography, and no to adultery). For those who think this way, chastity just means “no” or is a long list of rules. But this is a very limited understanding of chastity! Instead, because chastity is a virtue, it is oriented to the good of one’s life. Chastity is the virtue that allows one to truly love the other with respect to each person’s state of life. Rather than merely being a virtue of saying “no,” true chastity enables love and self-gift—true chastity teaches us to truly say “Yes!”
To be quite frank, it can be difficult to be chaste in our culture. We are constantly bombarded by images and media which can lead us to impurity. So too our culture’s casual attitude toward sexuality makes living chastity with one’s significant other seem extremely counter-cultural. This is why St. Joseph, the most chaste spouse of Mary, is a great saint for our times.
We ought to consider St. Joseph as a model of chastity. As a married man, St. Joseph was chaste in his conduct with the Blessed Virgin Mary. But just because Joseph has “Saint” before his name, does not mean he cannot relate to our own struggles around chastity. Remember, he was the only member of the Holy Family capable of sinning against chastity! So, St. Joseph can teach us a lot about chastity through his own example.
For those who struggle to live with chastity, St. Joseph can also be a powerful intercessor. Ask him to aid you in living for love that is real. If we are only considered with the “No’s” of chastity, we can ask for his help in teaching us what the virtue of chastity will help us to say “Yes” to.
May each of us go to the most chaste spouse of Mary in this year of St. Joseph, and find in him a shining example of chaste love.
St. Joseph, Most Chaste Spouse of Mary, Mother of God, Pray for us!
Deacon Noah Thelen
Diocese of Grand Rapids
Seminarian – Theology IV